LOVE like everything else in our diverse world comes in many different forms, in various scenarios and under atypical circumstances.
The news broke yesterday that Playboy founder Hugh Hefner is engaged to Crystal Harris. The BIG deal appears to be the issue of age (Hef is 84 and Crystal is 24). The news made me smile and genuinely happy for them, ageism is the last thing I thought of. I was saddened however to see that the news was "trending" on twitter but many of the tweets were negative. The terms "cradle robber", "grave robber" and "gold digger" were being thrown around as hundreds of tweeps made a feeble attempt at comedy. This public display of negativity and judgement really got me thinking. As a society have we become so jaded, pessimistic and negative that we cannot accept the fact that the pair simply LOVE each other? they as consenting adults have chosen to spend their lives together? and make a commitment to one another? If we put aside all the labels such as age, status and wealth I feel there is LOVE there, regardless of its origin.
"A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams" John Barrymore
I applaud anyone who has the courage to live an unconventional life, create their life the way they envision and live on their own terms. So, BRAVO Mr. Hefner for not only creating your own vision and dreams but living your life in the way YOU want to no matter what. I must confess however I am happy to see you drop the barrage of tacky "girlfriends" and spend your time and energy on just one special one. I must be clear however, I LOVED the original 3 GND and they are not the "tacky" girls I am referring to at all. XO Imagine how boring our lives would be if we were all society's version of cookie cutter, homogenized, generic versions of human beings. I love that there are extremes in life and in love.
We are all entitled to our opinions (thankfully) in this free world but I guess my idealistic and human self would love not to see everyones reactions immediately default to the negative. Let's make "love" and "happiness" the trending topic on twitter for a change.
There is such awful, tragic and depressing items in the news, why as a society do we try to turn even the most beautiful one, such as a marriage into a joke, or have a rude comment that one feels the need to share with the world via twitter or any other form? Lenny Kravitz said it best "Let LOVE rule" and we will all be better off as a society. Let's try to evolve our humanity shall we instead of being terrible negative examples of the human races devolution.
Good Luck to you and Crystal. May you enjoy each moment together.
"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident." St. Augustine (from the film: Captain Corelli's Mandolin)
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